Uncertainty is a hard space to be in for many people. This happens when our minds become our only source of truth – the place that holds memories, thoughts, judgements, past and stories of our future. With our world ever-moving, constantly evolving, and complex relationships with others, make it difficult to feel fully present, to simply just be.
I need you, and I need you to need me
When we are romantically involved with someone else, the thought of not knowing if things will work out can eventually replace that brief initial hit of euphoric, dreamy love. It’s no surprise with studies showing that 1 in 5 adults have some form of anxious-attachment.
What was once an exciting, spontaneous message from your love checking in to see how you are doing, quickly becomes a craving, even a threat, if it doesn’t happen as often as you’d like. “Are they having second thoughts? Are they messaging somebody else? Am I enough?”
This behaviour becomes so second nature to you, that you might not even realise it is happening, or why these relationships keep failing. The intense need for love, attention, assurance is how you survived, after all… Head over to my substack for free to read the entire article, don’t forget to subscribe!
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